Friday, April 13, 2012

No Good Deed Goes Unrewarded

A true story:

Last year our family was preparing to head out on vacation.  The night before we left, I was up in my office gathering some things I was planning on taking with us.  I picked up our digital camera – it is one of the fairly inexpensive “point and click” Samsungs, but takes great pictures.  When walking out to put it in my bag, I saw my daughter’s bedroom door, which she had very tastefully adorned with a collage of her life, and spontaneously  took two pictures of it, figuring she would like them for Facebook or for her friends.  This turned out to be serendipitous…

The following day, on a Sunday, we traveled up to Maine to visit Acadia National Park.  On Monday my daughter and went on a hike to Sand Beach, the one swimmable ocean beach within the park.  It was a beautiful mild April day, but it was off-season and there were not many people in the park.  Upon arriving at the beach, there was no one there and we had the beach to ourselves.  There were a few people hiking on Great Head, a nearby peninsula, and there were some workers working on the path from the parking lot to the beach.  My daughter and I took our shoes off and waded around in the ice cold water.  I took some pictures of her and the empty beach.  Just above where the waves were washing up on shore, I noticed that someone had left their belongings.  All of a sudden, a large wave came in, so I ran over and moved their things further up the beach.  One of the items was an expensive single-lens reflex digital camera; if we had not been there, the camera would have been lost.  After hanging out on the beach a little while longer, we put our shoes back on and headed back.  At that point, there were a few other people walking around on the beach.

We get back to where we were staying and after settling down, I realized I had lost track of the camera.  I thought I had absent-mindedly put it down somewhere, but after looking around for a while, I gave up, hoping later that it would turn up.  Of course, it didn’t, so I came to the conclusion I had either left it on the beach or it dropped out of my pocket.  The next day, we went on the same hike, looking thoroughly along the trail as well as on the beach, failing to find the camera.  At that point, I believed that it had washed out to sea and, even if it didn’t, it had rained hard that morning and I likely dropped it well below the high-tide line, so the water would have ruined it.  I was disappointed – I had some good shots including some amazing sunset pictures from two nights ago, but all in all, it was not a big deal and I wasn’t going to let it spoil our vacation.  The irony in the whole affair was that I had saved someone else’s camera; then I manage to lose ours.  My wife and I had a chuckle over that and forgot about it.

Later that week, after we had returned home, my wife and I went out on a walk, at which time I told her I would pick up a new camera in the morning.  Upon arriving home, there is a message on the answering machine from a woman who lived in Bangor, ME.  She said that she found a camera on the rocks on Sand Beach last Monday, looked at the pictures in the hopes of finding something identifying the owner, apologized for snooping, and came to the conclusion that the camera belonged to my daughter.  She looked for my daughter on Google and found a matching picture of her which identified the town where we live.  Knowing our last name at that point, she called several people at random with the matching last name.  (there are a lot of people in our town that share our last name, none of whom are relatives)  She confessed she was looking for a needle in a haystack, but wanted to try to return my daughter’s camera.

At that point, all I could say was “wow…”

How did she find us?  It was the picture of my daughter’s door that I took the night before our vacation.  On the door, she had a card on there with her full name written in yellow highlighter.  I have no clue how the woman could have made that out on the picture – I could barely make it out by eye!  Out of curiosity, I looked for my daughter on Google.  The first positive hit was on the third page, which showed her name on a church schedule.  The next positive hit was an article in the local newspaper where she was featured as one of the students of the month at her school.  None of us realized that she was even in the newspaper!  It was clear at that point that the woman had gone to a considerable effort to find the owner of the camera.  She searched on Google until she found a hit that had a regional match; then she successfully found a confirming picture.  At that point, she looked up our last name in the phone book and patiently called several phone numbers hoping she would find us.  As it turned out, I was very lucky to have taken the photo of my daughter’s door.

I called the woman to arrange shipment of the camera.  She graciously refused my offer to cover the shipping.  We sent her a thank-you note with a nice gift for her good deed.

“The irony in the whole affair was that I had saved someone else’s camera; then I manage to lose ours.  My wife and I had a chuckle over that and forgot about it.”  I’m sure many people have heard that sarcastic saying "no good deed goes unpunished."  Well, I knew the people who left the camera too close to the water would have been grateful that I moved it, so I looked at that action as opposed to the irony of losing our camera.  Every good deed indeed reaps a reward, even if not visible to us.  Additionally, I received reassurance that there are very good people out there who will go far out of their way to do someone a favor and to do the right thing.

Photo credit: Wikimedia Commons

Thursday, April 12, 2012

Harbor No Resentment

It is inevitable that we have one of those days where we wish we had never gotten out of bed.  Everything seems to go wrong, everyone around us either seems to be upset about something or is treating us poorly, and a storm of emotions threatens to overwhelm us.

One day I was having dinner with a business associate and we were talking about living a long, fulfilling, productive life.  He told me that the secret was to “harbor no resentment.”  This advice sparked many thoughts. We all have good and bad in our lives; the key is to remember to keep everything in balance and not let one bad day overwhelm all the good days.  Even in the bad, there are learning opportunities.  In harboring no resentment, it is possible to muster a smile or say a kind word that quenches someone’s anger.  In harboring no resentment, it is possible to handle poor treatment in a constructive and assertive fashion.

Harbor no resentment and a bad day will quickly pass.  In letting it go, positive things will come in its wake.


Photo: Acadia National Park

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

The Road Built in Hope

“It has never been, and never will be easy work! But the road that is built in hope is more pleasant to the traveler than the road built in despair, even though they both lead to the same destination.”  ~Marion Zimmer Bradley

Photo credit: Wikimedia Commons

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Risk Must be Taken

“To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.” ~ Leo Buscaglia

A Walk in the Rain

One day I was feeling down and was having trouble getting myself motivated.  It was a gray day and light rain was falling, which was intensifying the feelings.  A chaos of thoughts was coursing through my mind and I was having trouble shutting off the inner dialog.  On impulse, I put on my jacket and went out on a walk.  Walking on a sunny day has always been an uplifting experience for me, but I wasn’t sure if a gray rainy day would work in the same way.  After a few minutes, I realized that there was something very different about walking in the rain – it was invigorating!  Uplifting!  Feeling better, I was able to better channel my thoughts and start to focus on what was really important.  As a result, what could have been a depressing, unproductive day became more positive and fruitful.  Anchoring on this experience, I often look forward to a rainy day to go on a walk or a run…  ~GMB


Photo credit: Ian Paterson

Monday, April 9, 2012

The Gift of Authenticity

We all go through life attempting to discover our authentic selves.  Self-discovery is one of the most valuable exercises we can undertake because we learn our true talents, desires, and life purpose.  As we learn who we are, it is often challenging to stay true to ourselves, succumbing to the pressures of society and the opinions of others in our lives.  Yet, the best gift we can give ourselves is the gift of authenticity.  Additionally, authenticity allows us to see others in their own light as opposed to our own expectations.  That is the greater gift, for in allowing ourselves to be fully authentic; we help others to be themselves in our presence and accelerate their own self-discovery.

Sunday, April 8, 2012

Nature's Rebirth

“I think that no matter how old or infirm I may become, I will always plant a large garden in the spring.  Who can resist the feelings of hope and joy that one gets from participating in nature's rebirth?”  ~Edward Giobbi


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